Want to start exploring BDSM and kink, but not sure where to start? Or just want to expand your knowledge of all things kink?
Here’s a list of all of my favorite literature, online resources, and live workshops and events.
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Helpful Books on Kink & BDSM
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission – William Brame, Gloria Brame & Jon Jacobs
The New Topping Book – Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt
The New Bottoming Book – Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge – edited by Tristan Taormino
50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM – Tristan Taormino
Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink – Midori
Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers – Jaeleen Bennis & Eve Minax
Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot – Carol Queen
Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities – Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction – Jay Wiseman
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism – Philip Miller
Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond – Lee Harrington
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage – Midori
The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo (Toybag Guides) – Mollena Williams
Kinky Erotica
The Leather Daddy and the Femme – Carol Queen
The Marketplace Series – Laura Antoniou
The Killer Wore Leather – Laura Antoniou
Story of O: A Novel – Pauline Reage
Beauty’s Kingdom – Anne Rice writing as A. N. Roquelaure
Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica –Tristan Taormino (editor)
Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut – Sinclair Sexsmith
Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica – Sinclair Sexsmith (editor)
Best Bondage Erotica 2015 – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)
Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)
The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)
Best Sex Writing 2010 – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)
Serving Him: Sexy Stories of Submission – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)
Filthy Housewives: Explicit Erotica – Violet Blue
The Kink Up Your Kindle Series – Violet Blue
Leather Ever After: An Anthology of Kinky Fairy Tales – Sassafras Lowrey
The Story of O – Pauline Reage
Carrie’s Story: An Erotic S/M Novel – Molly Weatherfield
Kinky Porn
Straight/Mainstream:
Queer/Trans:
- CrashPadSeries.com (selected films)
- Foxhouse Films
Clips 4 Sale – Full of kinky/fetish vids. If you can dream it, you can find it here
TIP: Custom Videos! A lot of porn performers do custom videos; if you want something specific, and can identify performers who might be into it, ask politely. Kindness is key here. Please treat the performers with the respect that they deserve.
Online Resources
Kink.com – online kinky porn hub
Fetlife.com – online social media for kinksters
Planetmidori.com – official website for Midori
Videos
Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage
Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples
Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Bondage for Couples
Teachers & Workshops
Forte Femme weekend workshop on female dominance with Midori, planetmidori.com
Mollena Williams – mollena.com
Lee Harrington – Passionandsoul.com
Bondassage with Eve Minax and Jaeleen Bennis
Eve Minax – eveminax.com
Jaeleen Bennis – jaeleenbennis.com
Amy Jo Goddard – amyjogoddard.com
Events
Dark Odyssey, darkodyssey.com – educational and play events
Folsom Street Fair, folsomstreetfair.com – large leather and BDSM event, San Francisco
Folsom Street East, folsomstreeteast.com – leather event in New York
Leather Pride Night, leatherpridenight.org – NYC
LA Leather Pride, laleatherpride.com – LA, there are many leather pride events in cities around the world
Keep searching, there are hundreds of local and often annual events celebrating leather, kink and BDSM and offering workshops, events, resources and play opportunities. There are also leather competitions in many cities, like IMsL (International Ms. Leather) and IMrL (International Mr. Leather).