Fire Woman Retreat

PLEASURE ACTIVISM:
NOURISHING OURSELVES FOR THE REVOLUTION

ONLINE WOMEN’S SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT RETREAT

OCTOBER 22-25, 2020

ZOOM MEETING ROOM

Fire Woman Retreat

PLEASURE ACTIVISM:
NOURISHING OURSELVES FOR THE REVOLUTION

ONLINE WOMEN’S SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT RETREAT

OCTOBER 22-25, 2020

ZOOM MEETING ROOM

Join us for Fire Woman Retreat

Fire Woman Retreat is a unique four-day event designed to give us space to witness, explore and revel in our sexual natures, and to help women and non-binary folks break through the things that hold us back from being who we really are as sexual people.

Fire Woman Retreat is unlike any other event: it is a combination of rich teachings, transformational healing, powerful rituals and group witnessing that allows for big personal & collective breakthroughs.

This is the 4th year we’re doing Fire Woman Retreat and, after a powerful virtual retreat last May, we’re going virtual for a second time this year. This Fire Woman will be herstory-making as we gather at the precipice of the November election.

Amy Jo cares and meets you where you are with open arms. She truly wants you to be a woman on fire, full of love for yourself, empowered with sexual energy and the knowledge to use it. This virtual Fire Woman Retreat brought together women and non-binary people from all walks of life who were looking for various things and we came together and became a force to support and elevate each other. And Amy Jo provided the amazing tools, teachers, and rituals that created that safe space that allowed us to shine brighter, love ourselves, and each other, more with ever new skill. So, I would highly recommend giving it a go. You are worth it!”

Brandi Jo Cagle

The most valuable things about the retreat have been getting to know an even wider community of powerful women and opening up to the even greater possibilities inherent in embracing the magnificent powers of the feminine and the female body. There is so much power in being a woman that we have never experienced because we haven’t been taught, mentored, or supported. But it is never to late to embrace this knowledge and to break old patterns. This is the magnificent gift of the Fire Woman Retreat.”

Linda Marshall

“There is no way to repress pleasure and expect liberation, satisfaction, or joy.”

adrienne maree brown

Author - Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good

Pleasure Activism: Nourishing Ourselves for the Revolution is our theme for Fire Woman 2020.
We are gathering intentionally just two weeks before our U.S. national election because having a potent, intentional gathering of women and non-binary folks determined to live in our full power and pleasure is the way we create a revolutionary win for us all.

Our lives are literally at stake, worldwide.

It is urgent that we deepen our own internal resources so that we bring our vision into being: one that includes everyone.

Pleasure Activism tells us that it’s a losing game to think we can go out and fight for what we want, put ourselves on the line over and over, speak out and up, and not experience joy in the very act of liberation.

Liberation is meant to be joyful.

It is powerful and it is worth fighting for.

If we come from a place of fortification where we are caring for our bodies, taking time to love ourselves, to experience pleasure as we rise, we create something so powerful it cannot be taken away. It will never be stolen.

“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”

Audre Lorde

We need nourishment to stand in our power, to revolutionize our world.

We are fighting for Black Lives. We are speaking out like we never have before about the gross inequities in our world, and about the harmful anti-Blackness that has created division, prisons and so much harm and hate.

If you are afraid, it may be because the unknown, the uncharted, and the unspun is gnawing at you. You want to KNOW what will happen.

Humans like to know. And none of us know right now.

We must envision a more liberated world, fortify, and continue to raise our voices for Justice.

And that vision can only come from a present body, in its full power and pleasure. Strong. Clear. Nourished. Committed.

Women have always come together in every culture around the world for counsel, to speak wisdom, to share stories, to witness one another, to make decisions, and to charge ourselves up for whatever life is demanding of us.

We will come together in counsel as we approach the election that will impact the entire world for decades to come.

We get to create an inclusive, loving, liberated, just world. Together.

In our modern world, we honor that we are so much more than two genders. We welcome transgender women and our non-binary friends who were assigned female at birth to join us.

Never was there a more important time for us to come together to share our wisdom and resources, to grow our power and pleasure, to get clear and present about what is important for us going forward and to love, honor, heal and play with each other.

Please join us at Fire Woman and stand for Pleasure Activism for yourself, your community and our world.

The time is urgently now.

Never was there a more important time for us to come together to share our wisdom and resources, to grow our power and strength, to get clear and present about what is important for us going forward and to love and play with each other.

Sunny Megatron

Host, Sex with Sunny Megatron; sexuality educator, Fire Woman Retreat teacher

“When I returned home from my first Fire Woman Retreat I told my college-age daughters that this program should be a prerequisite for adulthood. It’s about so much more than sex! Our sexual selves are influenced by so many other facets of our lives like our traumas, the way we were raised, the damaging messages society feeds us, etc. Amy Jo designed an inclusive holistic curriculum that integrates all of that.”

“The best way I can describe it is, the breakthroughs of an entire year of therapy, plus a celebration of the self, and just the right amount of sexy knowhow rolled into one incredible event. Words don’t do it justice.”

The life-changing impact of Fire Woman Retreat is something that has to be experienced to be fully understood.

What will we do at Fire Woman Retreat?

  • Create a collective sexual lifeline that examines your entire sexual herstory, allowing deep healing and support to come forth
  • Get clear about who you are sexually right NOW, and what you really desire and write the next chapter of your story.
  • Release the burdens and shame that have held you back, feeling like you are “not enough”
  • Learn to ask for what you want, set boundaries and own your desires
  • Develop an array of new sexual skills at the Erotic Carnival! >>> Learn everything from seduction, to mental aspects of kink and how to have long-distance steamy sexy times, how to work a cock and how to work a yoni, the neuroscience of pleasure, how to do a lap dance and more sexual skills for your repertoire than you can imagine in one day!
  • Connect with the women and non-binary peeps in your own family group throughout the weekend so you can track each other and create more personal intimacy
  • Fortify yourself with self-care tools & strategies especially as they relate to our current world
  • Play and express yourself at the DANCE PARTY!
  • Create actionable steps to take your new healing, exploration and learning back into your life
  • Awaken the part of you that wants more play and adventure
  • Ultimately you get to release your patterns and come home to yourself
  • Learn from some of the BEST teachers in sexuality and women’s empowerment
  • Be a part of a sacred circle of people who are committed to living and creating their best life sexually, spiritually and emotionally

Where:

Sessions will take place via Zoom video conferencing. Once you register, you will be sent an email that contains the Zoom links where you can join each event.

Schedule:

OCTOBER 22, THURSDAY – OPENING SESSION

2pm – 4pm PST / 5pm – 7pm EST
Claiming & Reclaiming Our Power & Pleasure

*Our Opening Session is a free event for all, where you can invite all your women and non-binary friends to join. The more, the merrier!

OCTOBER 23, FRIDAY – The Sexual is Political

10am – 1pm PST / 1pm – 4pm EST
Session 1: Container Building, Personal & Collective Healing

2:30pm – 5:00pm PST / 5:30pm – 8:00pm EST
Session 2: The Sexual Lifeline

6:00pm – 9:00pm PST / 9:00pm – 12:00mn EST
Session 3: The Sexual Archetype Ritual

OCTOBER 24, SATURDAY – PLEASURE ACTIVISM

10am – 1pm PST / 1pm – 4pm EST
Session 1: Pleasure Activism

2:30pm – 5:30pm PST / 5:30pm – 8:30pm EST
Session 2: The Erotic Carnival

7:00pm – 9:00pm PST / 10:00pm – 12:00mn EST
Session 3: Sexy Dance Party!

OCTOBER 25, SUNDAY – Joy In Liberation

10am – 1pm PST / 1pm – 4pm EST
Session 1: Tools, Strategies & Self-Care

2:30pm – 4pm PST / 5:30pm – 7pm EST
Session 2: Closing Ritual for Revolution

PAYMENT PLAN

4 monthly payments of:

$125

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

CONCESSION TICKET

$297

Or 3 monthly payments of $99

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

STANDARD TICKET

$497

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

EXTRA HOT TICKET

$997

  • Everything in Standard plus:
  • Pre-event call with Amy Jo
  • A special toy/book bundle shipped to you
  • Follow up call after the event

We are a small feminist business, if you can pay the full price, please do. Paying full price means we’ll be able to let someone who might want to attend but may not be able to afford it at the moment take part in this event.

If you’re experiencing financial difficulties and can’t afford either payment option, please send us an email at moreplease@amyjogoddard.com and we’ll work with you.

What previous participants had to say:

“Amy Jo and her team were able to hold space for a global group of women and nonbinary folk for days. Sacred moments, silly moments, moments of transformation and awe”

PAT DALPE

“Doing the retreat online… was such a non-intimidating way to start the work. This was what I know I’ve needed for a very long time”

CARMEN RISI

From the first day, I felt that I had already gotten my money’s worth. I had many revelations about different areas of my life and was taught lots of transformative tools to experiment with. This retreat is for all facets of your life, not just your sexual one. I felt very safe and accepted in the container that was created for the weekend. The people I met there were all awesome and it gave me hope for the future of our world.”

– AKASHA, Fire Woman Virtual Retreat Attendee

“I felt empowered that others face the same or similar struggles. Hearing people speak openly about, hearing new ideas and tips on various topics (dirty talk, mental aspects of sex, etc.), and giving some air and space to the topic of sex allowed me to loosen the grip of my traumas, hangups and fears just a little bit! And now I will continue to nurture this open attitude and let it blossom even more.”

– MARISSA, Fire Woman Virtual Retreat Attendee

“I metaphorically opened my heart and spilled out years of confusion and trauma. In the sacred space that was created, surrounded by support and love, I reviewed my story and saw it is no longer the horror film I recall it to be, but the collection of learning experiences that brought me right here, right now. I can’t change anything that has happened to me without my consent, but I can stop hurting about it. I have that power. That power was in me all along, I had forgotten how to look.”

– DARLA, Fire Woman Virtual Retreat Attendee

Meet Your Teachers

Amy Jo Goddard has been teaching sexuality and sexual empowerment for over 20 years. What she’s seen in her two decades of teaching sexuality is that there comes a time in a woman’s life when she’s ready to stop settling and to embrace her sexual self in order to feel whole, free and vitally alive.

Amy Jo has a Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education from New York University and author of Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. You can check out her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” and her upcoming documentary, At Your Cervix.

MARLA RENEE STEWART

Marla is a sexologist and a sex coach who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips. She is also a co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference.

Marla is going to teach you how to incorporate impact play into your sexytimes. In this session, we will go over how you can improve your impact play in a sexual experience, why it’s important, the sexy hormones that are released, as well as practicing our techniques! Be prepared to use your sexual tools and instruments to ensure that you ignite your sexual flame when it comes to hot impact play.

SOPHIA WISE ONE

Sophia is a speaker, singer, mentor, transformational storyteller, visionary, and prayer of prayers. 

At the Erotic Carnival she will be leading a super interactive, playful Body Prayer: Self-Pleasuring Ritual. We have all heard about sex as worship, praise, or as some divine act. What better place to master the art of sacred pleasure than with yourself? You will be guided by clarifying your intention and awakening your pleasure as prayer. Learn how to be conscious and respectful of this power, your body, and also some tips on how to share the practice with another human. Your pleasure is powerful.

HAZEL-GRACE YATES

Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates is a pleasure activist, Intimacy coach, and founder of the Sex Catalyst Academy, a training for world-class sex-positive facilitators and leaders. Her mission on earth is to eradicate global toxic sexual shame.

With more than 12 years of experience as a pioneering educator, she works with individuals and couples as a Clinical Sexologist, Somatic Sex Educator, and Trauma-Informed Practitioner to support them in experiencing the healthiest and most fulfilling sex of their lives.

She will be teaching Sacred Booty Massage at the Erotic Carnival!

MARI LEON-HERNANDEZ

Mari de Luna is a trauma-informed Women’s Empowerment coach, who helps women suffering from low libido create the Epic Sex Life they crave for themselves. She blends mindful living, positive psychology and her most recent studies in NeoTantra and Taoism, for a holistic approach to guide women on a journey of self discovery. 

She will help you reclaim your sensuality and get you in your body with “Tapping Into Your Inner Seductress Through Erotic Dance”! 

EVA CLAY

An acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and academic, for over two decades Eva’s been following her mission to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex, and science.

She’s trained extensively in mind-body therapies such as Somatic Experiencing, Gestalt, Imago Couples Therapy, Hypnotherapy, and Mindfulness, and has had the honor of working with some of the great teachers of our time – including David Deida, Esther Perel, Harville Hendrix, Dan Seigel, and many others. When she’s not teaching, you’ll find her making mayhem on a dance floor.

SUNNY MEGATRON

Sunny Megatron is an adult sexuality educator, public speaker, blogger, sex and relationship writer, and pleasure advocate. She is also the host and executive producer of Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime.

Sunny also co-hosts the American Sex Podcast. Voted one of the 6 most savvy sexologists in North America, she guest lectures at universities and teaches sell-out sexuality workshops across the continent.

Sunny will be teaching How To Make Pervertibles 101 at this year’s Fire Woman Retreat.

CATHY VARTULI
Cathy is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom and Intimacy Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strength. She is also a PhD Research Scientist who’s worked at major communication companies. In the Intimacy Dojo, Cathy helps clients of all shapes, sizes, ages, and gender expressions break out of old patterns and find their voice.

Cathy will be teaching Touching Genitals for the Shy and Awkward at this year’s Fire Woman Retreat.

ISABELLA FRAPPIER

Isabella Frappier is a sexual activist and pleasure mentor, focused on body literacy and sexual sovereignty, she’s been featured in Netflix, Goop, Sex With Emily podcast, and VICE. She co-hosts the Sex Magic Podcast. BDSM has been a big part of Isabella’s life, and her coaching around kink and BDSM centers on conscious and clear intention-setting and expanding personal pleasure.

Isabella will be teaching individual rope tying sessions she calls Spiritual Sensual Shibari.

PAYMENT PLAN

4 monthly payments of:

$125

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

CONCESSION TICKET

$297

Or 3 monthly payments of $99

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

STANDARD TICKET

$497

  • 3 days of transformational teachings with Amy Jo and a group of teachers
  • Sexual meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
  • Classes on sexual skill uplevelling including sexual communication, erotic massage, lap dancing and more…

EXTRA HOT TICKET

$997

  • Everything in Standard plus:
  • Pre-event call with Amy Jo
  • Free access to any one of Amy Jo’s virtual courses
  • A special toy/book bundle shipped to you
  • Follow up call after the event

We are a small feminist business, if you can pay the full price, please do. Paying full price means we’ll be able to let someone who might want to attend but may not be able to afford it at the moment take part in this event.

If you’re experiencing financial difficulties and can’t afford either payment option, please send us an email at moreplease@amyjogoddard.com and we’ll work with you.

Fire Woman Retreat 2020 will be a living virtual circle. If you live across the world and have been wanting to be here over the last 3 years, now is your chance. If you have wanted to join us but couldn’t for whatever reason, clear your schedule and join us because it is TIME.

This will be some of the most potent days of your life. When women and queer folks gather, magic happens.

Nothing will stop us from gathering and concentrating our power.

The world needs us in our power more than ever.

See you at Fire Woman.

Frequently Asked Questions

I am heterosexual / monogamous / polyamorous / lesbian / queer / genderqueer / a sex worker / a mom... Is this retreat for me?

This retreat is for woman-identified people and non-binary folks identified female at birth, regardless of sexual orientation, relationship style, parental status, or experience as a sex worker. A wide range of women attend Fire Woman, as well as non-binary folks. This is a place for exploration and part of our mission as a sex-positive space is that we make room for everyone and there is no pressure to be something you are not.

I'm a trans woman/non-binary/trans man. Is this retreat trans-inclusive?

If you are a trans woman or non-binary person who was identified female at birth you are welcome here. This is a trans-inclusive women’s space. If you identify as a man of any kind, both cis and trans, this is not the space for you. We thank you for respecting that.

What exactly do you DO at a sexual empowerment retreat?

It’s normal for people to be curious about what this kind of event looks like. It’s a combination of experiential teaching (which means you are doing and participating–not just listening and taking notes), group ritual, healing work, skills-based practice, dress up and play, dancing, live music, entertainment and introspection. As for the details, you’ll have to come in order to experience it! We ask that you trust the process. The curriculum is tried and true. If you resonate with what you have read on our website and you feel called to come, trust that. It’s the place for you. Amy Jo and all of the teachers have been doing this work for a long time and are very skilled. We can hold you where ever you are.

Is alcohol, cannabis, and other drug use appropriate?

No. This is a substance-free event for many reasons. One important reason for this is that many people are accustomed to using alcohol, marijuana or other substances to “loosen up” or let their inhibitions down sexually, and can rely on it. We want you to be able to fully experience this work sober and for all participants to have a lucid space. We ask that you respect this boundary should you decide to attend. If you cannot, this is not the right time for you.

I'm anxious/nervous. How do I know this is right for me?

You feel it. You feel the pull. You feel the resonance and the desire to be here. Anxiety and excitement feel the same in the body so it can be hard sometimes to know which it is. Often, it’s both. Some nervousness is absolutely natural! You won’t be alone. Please let us know if you need some extra support and we will do our very best to provide it.

I won't be able to attend the whole retreat. Can I still sign up?

Absolutely! We understand that you may have other commitments and the hours might not line up depending on your location. We want you to be as present as possible, but please know all sessions will be recorded and you will get a replay link. 

I would love to attend, but money is tight right now...

We understand times are hard right now. We offer financial assistance on a case-by-case basis. All we ask is that you message our team at moreplease@amyjogoddard.com and we’ll work with you. 

I have another question that wasn't answered here, who do I contact?

You may send us an email at moreplease@amyjogoddard.com and we will endeavor to answer any questions you may have!