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Freedom in the Not-So United States

Freedom in the Not-So United States

It's been a heavy week in the not-so-United States. In Minneapolis, George Floyd was brutally murdered by an on-duty police officer in broad daylight as he plead for his life, saying "I can't breathe."  This is only the latest in so many killings of unarmed Black...

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Your Human Taproot

Your Human Taproot

I am blessed and blissed out from Fire Woman Retreat last weekend. I can believe what we accomplished in our four days of magic and I am still absolutely mesmerized and delighted by what I learned. I learned that so much more is possible. I learned that when the right...

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Rosie the Riveter on Quarantine Moments

Rosie the Riveter on Quarantine Moments

During WWII, as American men were needed for war with the Axis powers, who took up the slack at home? The same people who always do: women. Women not only managed their households, they also began to work in defense factories and production, took on roles formerly...

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What Does Sexual Power Actually Mean?

When there is a shared power that feels healthy and good for both partners in a relationship, you can then have more freedom to play with power sexually. Power is always part of sex.

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Rebirthing Yourself Out of Loss

Rebirthing Yourself Out of Loss

Many people are feeling lost right now. Sexually, most people are either in shut down or overdrive and little in between. Feeling a little smothered in small spaces with others, or feeling lonely and disconnected.   The truth is that we are...

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This is an Initiation

This is an Initiation

This week I called together the many women from many different intensive programs I have taught over the years because I wanted to see them. I wanted to look into their eyes. I wanted to be with them. And we dropped in deep because that's what we do. Right now, many...

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13 Things You Can Do Right NOW

13 Things You Can Do Right NOW

Dear Mother Earth, I want to say I am sorry. I wouldn’t blame you if you wanted to just chew us up and spit us out. We’ve not been very good to you. We are the biggest squatters—we don’t pay our rent or do our part for the health of you. We take all your resources and...

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Why We Get Disconnected from Sex and Personal Power

Why We Get Disconnected from Sex and Personal Power

“My sexuality has never been about me…it was always a performance for someone else.” “I didn’t know I had a sexuality to DO anything with!” “I did what he wanted to do sexually and pretended to like it so he would stay with me.” “I’ve never enjoyed sex.” Those are...

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Love’s In Need of Love Today

Love’s In Need of Love Today

Happy Day of Love! Dia de Amor! Valentines! I hope you are filling yourself up with self-love and feeling deep presence to the relationships you have. Take a moment today to honor the role that love plays in your life.  Whether you have a lover or...

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Let’s Get Loud About Superbowl Slut Shaming

Let’s Get Loud About Superbowl Slut Shaming

J. Lo and Shakira did a fantastic, stylized, powerful, s£xy Puerto-Rican pride-filled halftime show that showcased girls of color, asked them to raise their voices and gave them the spotlight. And all we can do is complain about their skimpy clothes, pole dancing and...

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How To Tame Your Scorpion

How To Tame Your Scorpion

It's hard for many people unfamiliar with the idea of developing a sexuality intentionally to imagine how one works in the inner sexual life. How do you uncover the shadows that keep you stuck in sexual ruts, dissatisfaction, disconnection, frustration and...

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Sexual Self-Actualization: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 2]

Sexual Self-Actualization: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 2]

Read part one It’s almost shocking that psychologist Abraham Maslow thought only 1% of people would self-actualize. He thought that "most of us function most of the time on a level lower than that of self-actualization". Source I think most people want to see...

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Surrendering to Life: The Inventory of the Un-Done

Surrendering to Life: The Inventory of the Un-Done

Over the last month I’ve been very sick—sicker than I have ever been in my life. I’ve had every test under the sun to figure out what is wrong and everything kept coming out normal, which on one hand was good news but on the other hand left questions with no answers. ...

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Halloween is the Most Sexual Holiday

Halloween is the Most Sexual Holiday

Last week I had to write about Katie Hill given the political situation that had erupted. I got a huge response from that article—thank you to everyone who wrote in and expressed your thoughts, whether or not we agreed. I always appreciate hearing from my readers and...

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Revenge porn is a tool of the patriarchy

Revenge porn is a tool of the patriarchy

This year I passionately worked on the ground for House Representative Katie Hill’s campaign in northern Los Angeles. My friends and I were committed to helping this young, smart woman win a seat that had been held by Republicans for decades. This week Katie Hill...

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How hidden shame impacts sexuality

How hidden shame impacts sexuality

One of the most common things people say they want when it comes to sexuality is to release the shame and guilt they carry about it. Most people are walking around with hidden shame about sex, their bodies, pleasure, their desires, or their attractions and kinks....

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DeArmouring & ReWilding the Sexual Self

DeArmouring & ReWilding the Sexual Self

Dearmouring and ReWilding are interrelated aspects of our healing that allow us to move fully towards true liberation and freedom.  The work I do as a sexual empowerment educator and healer uses both the clearing mechanism of dearmouring processes and fills the...

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