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The Critical Ingredient the Personal Development World Misses

How I reconciled between the activist and personal development space and what I found Over a decade ago when I started my second and current business, as my 9-year relationship was ending and I was setting out to figure out what it would mean to truly stand on my own...

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The 5-Phase Sex and Money Process

Last week, I hosted my long-running masterclass, "10 Ways of the Sex-Money Connection". Because I've noticed people are hurting deeply around these two aspects right now. As I told the participants last week, "The way you do sex is probably the way you do money." One...

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Without Sexism & Misogyny, Homophobia Would Not Exist

Without Sexism & Misogyny, Homophobia Would Not Exist

For those of us who have deep beliefs about the importance of equality, this week’s Supreme Court decision stating that people cannot be discriminated against in employment related to their sexual orientation or transgender status is a no brainer. It should have been...

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Willful Ignorance & Creating Change

Willful Ignorance & Creating Change

I just attended a small business town hall: Reimagining Small Business about how to create an equitable, antiracist, inclusive organization. It was wildly inspiring and aspirational. I have been engaged in many conversations about systemic racism and I’m seeing both a...

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This is the Moment of Revolution

This is the Moment of Revolution

This has been a very important and heavy week here in the U.S. What is happening right now is critical to our future and becoming a true democracy that serves the life, liberty and pursuit of happiness of its people.   I want to call us all to action. What...

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Freedom in the Not-So United States

Freedom in the Not-So United States

It's been a heavy week in the not-so-United States. In Minneapolis, George Floyd was brutally murdered by an on-duty police officer in broad daylight as he plead for his life, saying "I can't breathe."  This is only the latest in so many killings of unarmed Black...

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Your Human Taproot

Your Human Taproot

I am blessed and blissed out from Fire Woman Retreat last weekend. I can believe what we accomplished in our four days of magic and I am still absolutely mesmerized and delighted by what I learned. I learned that so much more is possible. I learned that when the right...

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Rosie the Riveter on Quarantine Moments

Rosie the Riveter on Quarantine Moments

During WWII, as American men were needed for war with the Axis powers, who took up the slack at home? The same people who always do: women. Women not only managed their households, they also began to work in defense factories and production, took on roles formerly...

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Rebirthing Yourself Out of Loss

Rebirthing Yourself Out of Loss

Many people are feeling lost right now. Sexually, most people are either in shut down or overdrive and little in between. Feeling a little smothered in small spaces with others, or feeling lonely and disconnected.   The truth is that we are...

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This is an Initiation

This is an Initiation

This week I called together the many women from many different intensive programs I have taught over the years because I wanted to see them. I wanted to look into their eyes. I wanted to be with them. And we dropped in deep because that's what we do. Right now, many...

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13 Things You Can Do Right NOW

13 Things You Can Do Right NOW

Dear Mother Earth, I want to say I am sorry. I wouldn’t blame you if you wanted to just chew us up and spit us out. We’ve not been very good to you. We are the biggest squatters—we don’t pay our rent or do our part for the health of you. We take all your resources and...

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Why We Get Disconnected from Sex and Personal Power

Why We Get Disconnected from Sex and Personal Power

“My sexuality has never been about me…it was always a performance for someone else.” “I didn’t know I had a sexuality to DO anything with!” “I did what he wanted to do sexually and pretended to like it so he would stay with me.” “I’ve never enjoyed sex.” Those are...

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Love’s In Need of Love Today

Love’s In Need of Love Today

Happy Day of Love! Dia de Amor! Valentines! I hope you are filling yourself up with self-love and feeling deep presence to the relationships you have. Take a moment today to honor the role that love plays in your life.  Whether you have a lover or...

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Let’s Get Loud About Superbowl Slut Shaming

Let’s Get Loud About Superbowl Slut Shaming

J. Lo and Shakira did a fantastic, stylized, powerful, s£xy Puerto-Rican pride-filled halftime show that showcased girls of color, asked them to raise their voices and gave them the spotlight. And all we can do is complain about their skimpy clothes, pole dancing and...

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How To Tame Your Scorpion

How To Tame Your Scorpion

It's hard for many people unfamiliar with the idea of developing a sexuality intentionally to imagine how one works in the inner sexual life. How do you uncover the shadows that keep you stuck in sexual ruts, dissatisfaction, disconnection, frustration and...

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Sexual Self-Actualization: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 2]

Sexual Self-Actualization: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 2]

Read part one It’s almost shocking that psychologist Abraham Maslow thought only 1% of people would self-actualize. He thought that "most of us function most of the time on a level lower than that of self-actualization". Source I think most people want to see...

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Surrendering to Life: The Inventory of the Un-Done

Surrendering to Life: The Inventory of the Un-Done

Over the last month I’ve been very sick—sicker than I have ever been in my life. I’ve had every test under the sun to figure out what is wrong and everything kept coming out normal, which on one hand was good news but on the other hand left questions with no answers. ...

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