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Who I Am

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Amy Jo Goddard has become the most renowned Sexual Empowerment Coach in the world.

After nearly two decades of working in the sexuality field with every audience you can think of, from first graders to adult professionals to college students across the U.S., Amy Jo dedicated herself to building a successful coaching practice for women and couples. She has built her business with her tremendous experience, pioneering smarts and deep compassion for the clients she works with.

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[separator style_type=”none” top_margin=”10″ bottom_margin=”10″ sep_color=”” border_size=”” icon=”” icon_circle=”” icon_circle_color=”” width=”” alignment=”center” class=”” id=””][title size=”1″ content_align=”left” style_type=”default” sep_color=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” class=”” id=””]Some key things you want to know about Amy Jo are:[/title][fusion_text]

    • She has a Masters degree in Human Sexuality Education from New York University
    • She is the author of Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence (2015) and the bestseller Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men (re-released in 2015)
    • She has helped 1,000s of people with their sexuality and maintains a full practice of delightful clients who are committed to developing their sexual selves and deepening their relationships
    • In college, her human sexuality textbook was the only one she ever read cover-to-cover
    • Amy Jo was chosen as one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love 2010”
    • She’s got 15 years in academia under her belt and tours the country speaking and teaching about sexuality
    • She spent 10 years educating medical students and providers about pelvic exams and is making a film entitled At Your Cervix about that work
    • She goes by “Amy Jo”; please don’t call her “Amy”

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Amy Jo Goddard author photo 2016As a sex-positive sexuality educator, I acknowledge sexuality as an important and natural part of people’s lives – a site where our personal growth has incredible potential. I have a deep respect for sexual and cultural diversity and encourage people to learn from multiple perspectives, especially in relation to sexuality; and to see sexuality as holistically connected to our health, happiness, self-concept, and human fulfillment.

In my classes, trainings and coaching, I provide accurate, current and in-depth information about sexuality, gender, relationships, sexual identity, sexual abuse, diversity, and privilege/oppression. All of my workshops, classes and trainings are interactive and experiential, encouraging active participation and self reflection by participants. Whenever appropriate, I also facilitate skills-building components to help participants enhance their work, their relationships and their lives with new abilities. By integrating multiple levels of awareness and drawing from many disciplines, my goal is to provide the most well-rounded education and engagement, asking participants to be proactive learners, rather than passive students.

As a feminist educator, I came into the sexuality field aiming to empower women and girls to make healthy sexual decisions and to express themselves in ways that affirm their femaleness and perspectives as women. However, the more I have worked with men over the years, the more I have wanted to engage in conversations with them about how gender norms and identities affect them. As a queer person, working with queer communities and issues that affect us is vitally important to me.

I have worked a great deal with lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people and am committed to supporting and empowering sexual minorities.

I am especially drawn to work that assists people in examining gender roles, personal experience with gender and/or sexism, sexual identity, heterosexism, homophobia and racism and to unlearn the many myths we often carry about sexual minorities and sexuality in general.

As someone who has studied and practiced many spiritual traditions, I also aim to incorporate a critical spiritual component into my work, since for me, sexuality and spirituality are intertwined in important ways. The more whole we are as sexual beings, the more fulfilled we are as human beings. I believe that healthy sexuality and healthy non-violent intimate relationships are the key to changing the world, one person at a time.[/fusion_text][/one_full][/fullwidth][fullwidth background_color=”#FFFFFF” background_image=”” background_parallax=”none” enable_mobile=”no” parallax_speed=”0.1″ background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” video_url=”” video_aspect_ratio=”16:9″ video_webm=”” video_mp4=”” video_ogv=”” video_preview_image=”” overlay_color=”” overlay_opacity=”0.5″ video_mute=”yes” video_loop=”yes” fade=”no” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding_top=”20″ padding_bottom=”20″ padding_left=”0″ padding_right=”0″ hundred_percent=”no” equal_height_columns=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” menu_anchor=”” class=”” id=””][title size=”1″ content_align=”left” style_type=”default” sep_color=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” class=”” id=””]Other facts you might like to know about me:[/title][fusion_text]vulvalutionpostcard991

  • I came to the sexuality field as a young feminist activist, ready to change people’s lives and create gender equity through the doorway of sexuality.
  • I spent my 20s in New York, writing and producing my plays, including the notorious Vulvalution.
  • I know people are better parents to their children, and better presidents of nations when they have a healthy, fully expressed sexuality.
  • I’m from California and I’m working my way back to the surf lifestyle I always secretly wanted.
  • I explored and learned a lot about gender as Drag King ladies man Nikki Silver in New York’s burgeoning 90s Drag King Scene.
  • I teach my clients that sexuality is a practice and it’s not something you just wind up and then it will go on autopilot. It requires nurturing.
  • Most importantly, I believe that sexuality is NOT a luxury. It’s essential and it lives in our core.

[/fusion_text][/fullwidth][fullwidth background_color=”#FFFFFF” background_image=”” background_parallax=”none” enable_mobile=”no” parallax_speed=”0.1″ background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” video_url=”” video_aspect_ratio=”16:9″ video_webm=”” video_mp4=”” video_ogv=”” video_preview_image=”” overlay_color=”” overlay_opacity=”0.5″ video_mute=”yes” video_loop=”yes” fade=”no” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding_top=”20″ padding_bottom=”20″ padding_left=”0″ padding_right=”0″ hundred_percent=”no” equal_height_columns=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” menu_anchor=”” class=”” id=””][title size=”1″ content_align=”left” style_type=”default” sep_color=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” class=”” id=””]Here’s why I knew I had to do this work.[/title][fusion_text]I got into the sexuality field in the mid-90s as a young feminist activist and as someone who had had difficult experiences on my own sexual journey. As a teen, my sexual life was NOT easy!

I used to feel totally in the dark about sex. Like many teens, I went through a lot of difficult and regrettable experiences with sex and sexuality. I felt totally isolated and alone with all of it with no one I could talk to—not my girlfriends, certainly not my father or my mother or any other adult who could help me.

I grew up in a single parent home with my dad who was in the military. My mom was still in my life and she was a self-identified prude , and a “recovering Catholic.” Between the influence of the military and the Catholic church, There just wasn’t a lot of conversation about sex!

It wasn’t until I got went to college and took a human sexuality class that my world opened up. I felt upset that I had to wait so long to get this very important information. I finally had permission to masturbate and explore my own sexuality. I was learning how to talk about it. And finally, I learned how to have an orgasm at long last, after years of frustration that I couldn’t. I thought I was the last woman on earth to learn how. After college I came out as queer* and began dating women.[/fusion_text][/fullwidth][fullwidth background_color=”#FFFFFF” background_image=”” background_parallax=”none” enable_mobile=”no” parallax_speed=”0.1″ background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” video_url=”” video_aspect_ratio=”16:9″ video_webm=”” video_mp4=”” video_ogv=”” video_preview_image=”” overlay_color=”” overlay_opacity=”0.5″ video_mute=”yes” video_loop=”yes” fade=”no” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding_top=”20″ padding_bottom=”20″ padding_left=”0″ padding_right=”0″ hundred_percent=”no” equal_height_columns=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” menu_anchor=”” class=”” id=””][fusion_text]U6A8898-300x200I was determined to do work that would help other people avoid some of the things that were so hard for me. I also knew how amazing it felt to go from feeling sexually disempowered to being a sexually open, knowledgeable and empowered woman. I’ve shared my story because I know what it’s like to be in a place of disempowerment—to the point where it hurt me. I know there are many people who have gone through their own experiences of feeling isolated, uninformed, shamed or and scared about sexual relationships or their bodies.

Many factors went into my becoming able to talk about sex, to have fulfilling sexual relationships, to understand my sexual identity, and to own my sexual power. Part of my journey now is to help others walk through that door.

*NOTE: The word “queer” is confusing to some people because historically it has been used in a derogatory way. I identify as “queer” rather than gay, lesbian or bisexual for many reasons. For me, Queer is a political identity and it encompasses more than who I am attracted to or have relationships with. It also speaks to who I am as an activist and as someone living my life in many ways that are different and not the dominant norm. “Lesbian” is limiting because I have relationships with both men and women and “Bisexual” is limiting because I do not see gender as a binary.

Most people wonder what kind of training and experience I have to be able to do the work I do.

When I figured out that I wanted to be just like my college professors (The Baldwins at UCSB), I had no idea the journey I was about to embark upon.

There was no internet. We still used this thing called a library. So I went to one and I researched to try to figure out where on earth I could go to get a graduate degree in human sexuality. New York University had one of only 3 (count em, 3) sexuality programs in the whole country.

I decided I wanted to go to New York. I got into NYU, so I packed up my stuff and moved to the big Apple. I loved New York and all of my colleagues I was in school with who were so passionate about doing work in human sexuality. But no one told us how few jobs actually existed where we would be able to use our skills on a daily basis or help people the way we wanted to help them.

AJBettyphotoshopped_smallI earned my Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education from NYU and I was on a mission. I had amazing mentors and teachers who not only taught me academically, but also guided me on my personal journey of self-empowerment. I was fortunate enough to meet Betty Dodson (pictured right) while in graduate school and count her as one of my close mentors, and to train with her as a “body sex coach”. I worked with Betty on many projects and was invited to join a professional women’s sexuality group that she was a part of. Fresh out of grad school, I was beginning to be surrounded by some of the greatest minds and strongest feminists in the sexuality field. I felt intimidated, but I knew one day I would offer something special for women that could help them have the powerful experiences, support, and education about their sexuality that I was put on earth to provide.[/fusion_text][separator style_type=”none” top_margin=”10″ bottom_margin=”10″ sep_color=”” border_size=”” icon=”” icon_circle=”” icon_circle_color=”” width=”” alignment=”center” class=”” id=””][fusion_text]aj-at-NYU-041-300x225I have taught sexuality to just about every audience under the sun. In my near two decades in the sexuality field, I have taught in public and private schools, colleges and universities, at conferences and in communities all over the country. After a number of years as an independent consultant-trainer, it was time for me to launch my own programs. That way, I could do the intensive work I love to do with people on my own terms.

I have developed my programs–including my Fire Woman! virtual coaching program and the Your Sexually Empowered Life Program out of my history and my desire to help other women work on their own sexuality in a deep and meaningful way—a space I would have loved to have had myself. The programs I offer are unlike anything else available today. They have come from my own unique experiences, specialized training and vision for what healthy sexuality can be when we work on it holistically.

By pushing you beyond your comfort zone and giving you opportunities to take risks, I assist you to break through your blocks into a more vibrant space where you get to experience more pleasure, playfulness and passion. I use my personal sexuality model to help you develop your sexual energy, create more connection and intimacy in your relationships, have juicier sex, and make more powerful choices in your life.

I facilitate sexual growth both one-on-one (or one-on-two-or-three) and with groups. I address sexual issues expertly with comfort, ease and openness. My core curriculum is unique. It includes:

  • overcoming sexual shame & guilt,
  • body education and affirmation,
  • addressing cultural stereotypes,
  • examining sexual archetypes, and
  • sex and intimacy skills building

All of my programs are designed to help women create a more powerful, satisfying sex life, incorporating solid sex education with ritual and experiential work. As a result of the varied modalities I use, my programs impact clients more deeply.[/fusion_text][one_full last=”yes” spacing=”yes” center_content=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” background_color=”” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” hover_type=”none” link=”” border_position=”all” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”” padding=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” animation_type=”” animation_direction=”” animation_speed=”0.1″ animation_offset=”” class=”” id=””][fusion_text]

This work is for a specific kind of person.

Amy_Jo-262_LowRes-300x200I work best with women who are seeking a change in their lives and know the change begins with their core sexuality. My clients are ready to work and have the courage to take risks. In spite of the obstacles, they are READY to do honest work on their sexual self. This work requires a deep level of self-honesty, self-effacement and humility; it’s about being vulnerable and learning to see vulnerability as powerful.

My ideal client wants a vibrant sexual life and is ready to demand the fulfilling relationships she deserves. Once you commit to this process, the journey has just begun. There has to be a commitment to making sexuality a priority. It requires consistency, even when resistance comes up. It’s an active, engaging process that will help anyone who is ready make great strides in life and relationships. My clients are amazed at what opens up for them when a commitment is made to develop sexually.

Some people feel nervous about working on their sexuality. Some even get nervous to reach out to me. The way to overcome fear is to take a step. There is nothing wrong in asking for assistance with your sexuality. In fact, it’s a tremendously courageous act. I think the world would be so much healthier if we all would. The world tells us “sexuality is just natural,” therefore we shouldn’t need any help with it. We learn that we shouldn’t talk about it because “it’s private”. These ideas aren’t true and they hold us back from expressing our full sexual nature and getting support where we need it.

Since you’ve read this far, what I’m saying must be striking a chord. Something inside you knows the value of engaging actively with your own sexual growth. This cultural story about sexuality keeps us in ignorance and pain. Think about it this way; we can understand how someone needs a coach to become proficient at a sport, or a teacher to learn a business or vocational skill.[/fusion_text][/one_full][one_full last=”yes” spacing=”yes” center_content=”no” hide_on_mobile=”no” background_color=”” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” background_position=”left top” hover_type=”none” link=”” border_position=”all” border_size=”0px” border_color=”” border_style=”” padding=”” margin_top=”” margin_bottom=”” animation_type=”” animation_direction=”” animation_speed=”0.1″ animation_offset=”” class=”” id=””][fusion_text]

Don’t you think we need guidance about something as complex as sexuality?

You bet we do!

We don’t question seeing a therapist to help us with our psychological health or seeing a doctor about our physical health. Your sexual health and well-being are just as important. People who really want to get to the next level with their sexual selves and live more fulfilling lives deserve the appropriate guidance: someone who is expertly trained and who understands the depth of their struggles with sexuality. Whether you choose me or someone else, you are giving yourself a gift by saying, “I want to invest in my sexuality. I want to get more comfortable with it. I want to explore and expand it.”

This work can create more happiness and expansion in your life. Sexuality is where our energy begins; if we work on that, it impacts everything else. You may not know where to start—that’s fine. Just start. If you work with me, I’ll offer you a structure that helps you get comfortable working on sex and sexuality. It will clarify that it’s as important as any other self-development work you might choose to do. And we’ll have fun while we do it.

This work is not for everyone. It’s not for people who are looking for an erotic thrill. Please seek out someone else. There are people who provide thrill-seekers with everything under the sun and they provide a wonderful service to people. That is not what I do here.

If you do not yet believe you can invest money, time and/or energy in your sexuality, we are not suited for each other at this time. If you do not have the financial resources to invest at this time, I have other low-cost and no-cost ways for you to learn and stay connected, and when you do have the money/time/energy to invest, contact me and we’ll get started. To work with me privately or in my bigger group programs will be a four or five figure investment.

It takes a pretty special person to work on themselves in this way. I am here to work with people who are serious about making changes to their sexual lives. I pre-screen everyone to make sure we both feel we are a good fit for each other.

Sexuality seems like a luxury, I have heard people say.

How much do you value your sexuality? How much does it cost you to keep NOT addressing it? By investing in it, you are setting a cosmic process in motion to assist you to reach new levels of your being and to embrace joy, playfulness, pleasure and authenticity. How can things stay the same in your life if you are willing to step into your sexuality wholly? It’s impossible!

You might have a hard time feeling like you “deserve” to work on your sexuality. Some people do. That’s part of a consciousness based in lack and deprivation that keeps you stuck.

Working on sexuality opens your being to aliveness, vibrancy, abundance and radiance. Because we have so much silence around sex, we have a hard time speaking up and acknowledging how deeply we want to connect with our sexual selves more authentically. When we do connect, we become attuned to life, abundance and joy.

What is that worth to you?

Women come to my coaching or group programs with varying goals. You will set goals for what you want to accomplish and they are addressed. You get support for your specific sexual needs in a non-judgmental, loving environment that supports your success. I can’t predict exactly what shifts will happen for you, but they will happen. When communities of women come together to do deep work on themselves, very powerful things occur. You are not alone; you have sisters walking the path with you.[/fusion_text][fusion_text]

No matter what level you are at now in your sexual development, there is always more.

Some of the things women have reported receiving as a result of my coaching or my Women’s Sexually Empowered Life Group Program are:

  • Greater comfort and ease with their sexuality as a whole
  • Clarity about sexual desires and needs
  • New communication skills so they more effectively get what they want from their relationships and sex life
  • More powerful orgasms—or experiencing orgasms for the first time
  • Identification, healing and release of sexual shame
  • Happier, more playful and fulfilling relationships
  • More pleasure, more powerful orgasms, and deeper intimacy in relationships
  • More confidence—which means more sexual/intimate partner possibilities, more business and creative life expansion, and more joyful expression
  • New possibilities for sexual exploration and expression
  • Authentic love for their body
  • Better ability to parent their children without shaming them
  • Acknowledgement and understanding of parts of their identities that have been in hiding, leading to more freedom and authentic expression
  • More alignment in their relationships and their lives
  • Stronger, more meaningful friendships
  • More knowledge about their sexual selves
  • The ability to work on a current relationship with care and purpose
  • Openness and more ease in talking about sexuality and relationships
  • Getting what they really desire

The result of working with me is an internal alignment that connects your sexuality to the whole of who you are. Such a connection attracts healthier, more fulfilling relationships, more pleasure and playfulness, and a new way of getting your needs met so you never ever settle for less than you deserve again. It is an honor for me to be a part of this transformation with the women who decide to work with me on this precious and powerful part of themselves. So if you think you might be ready to get started, congratulations on deciding to invest in your sexual life.

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I want more info! Please subscribe me to your ezine, Amy Jo.

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