BDSM & Kinky Resource Guide

Want to start exploring BDSM and kink, but not sure where to start? Or just want to expand your knowledge of all things kink?

Here’s a list of all of my favorite literature, online resources, and live workshops and events.

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Helpful Books on Kink & BDSM

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission – William Brame, Gloria Brame & Jon Jacobs

The New Topping Book – Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt

The New Bottoming Book – Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge – edited by Tristan Taormino

50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM – Tristan Taormino

Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink – Midori

Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers – Jaeleen Bennis & Eve Minax

Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot – Carol Queen

Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities – Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction – Jay Wiseman

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism – Philip Miller

Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and BeyondLee Harrington

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage – Midori

The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo (Toybag Guides) – Mollena Williams

Kinky Erotica

The Leather Daddy and the Femme – Carol Queen

The Marketplace Series – Laura Antoniou

The Killer Wore Leather – Laura Antoniou

Story of O: A Novel – Pauline Reage

Beauty’s Kingdom – Anne Rice writing as A. N. Roquelaure

Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica –Tristan Taormino (editor)

Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut – Sinclair Sexsmith

Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica – Sinclair Sexsmith (editor)

Best Bondage Erotica 2015 – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)

Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)

The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales – Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)

Best Sex Writing 2010Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)

Serving Him: Sexy Stories of Submission Rachel Kramer Bussel (editor)

Filthy Housewives: Explicit Erotica – Violet Blue

The Kink Up Your Kindle Series – Violet Blue

Leather Ever After: An Anthology of Kinky Fairy Tales – Sassafras Lowrey

The Story of O – Pauline Reage

Carrie’s Story: An Erotic S/M Novel – Molly Weatherfield

Kinky Porn



Clips 4 Sale – Full of kinky/fetish vids.  If you can dream it, you can find it here

TIP: Custom Videos!  A lot of porn performers do custom videos; if you want something specific, and can identify performers who might be into it, ask politely.  Kindness is key here.  Please treat the performers with the respect that they deserve.

Online Resources – online kinky porn hub – online social media for kinksters – official website for Midori


Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage

Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples 

Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Bondage for Couples

Teachers & Workshops

Forte Femme weekend workshop on female dominance with Midori,

Mollena Williams –

Lee Harrington –

Bondassage with Eve Minax and Jaeleen Bennis

Eve Minax –

Jaeleen Bennis –

Amy Jo Goddard –


Dark Odyssey, – educational and play events

Folsom Street Fair, – large leather and BDSM event, San Francisco

Folsom Street East, – leather event in New York

Leather Pride Night, – NYC

LA Leather Pride, – LA, there are many leather pride events in cities around the world

New England Leather Alliance

Keep searching, there are hundreds of local and often annual events celebrating leather, kink and BDSM and offering workshops, events, resources and play opportunities. There are also leather competitions in many cities, like IMsL (International Ms. Leather) and IMrL (International Mr. Leather).