Are you ready to own your sexuality?
To reclaim it, heal it, and celebrate it?
Are you ready for more pleasure, power, and play?
If you answered “yes” to any part of that,
Fire Woman Retreat is for YOU.
The Fire Woman Retreat is a unique three-day event designed to give us space to witness, explore and revel in our sexual natures, and to help women and non-binary folks break through the things that hold us back from being who we really are as sexual people.
Fire Woman Retreat is unlike any other event: it is a combination of rich teachings, transformational healing, powerful rituals, playful evening events under the stars by firelight, and group witnessing that allows for big personal & collective breakthroughs.
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What You Will Learn At Fire Woman Retreat
When you embark on this sexual journey of awakening and when you commit to embracing your own sexual agency and power, you…
- Gain sexual confidence
- Release the burdens and shame that have held you back and feeling like you are “not enough”
- Get clear about who you are sexually right NOW, and what you really desire
- Learn to stand for yourself, set boundaries and own your own desires
- Embrace and radically love your body
- Develop ways to show up as emotionally powerful in your relationships
- Move towards deeper intimacy and rocking sex
- End the divisions between your spiritual path and your sexuality
- Experience ecstatic Play and Sacred Theater to awaken the part of you that wants more play and adventure
- Welcome profound pleasure and joy in all of life
- Express yourself authentically
- Direct your sexual energy to the things you want to use it for
- Explore how cultural archetypes live in, and impact you
- Release your patterns of self-abandonment and come home to yourself
What happens at
Fire Woman Retreat?
It can be difficult to imagine what will happen at a women’s sexual empowerment retreat. It is one of the most unique experiences you will ever have.
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3 Days of Transformational Teachings with Amy Jo & a courageous group of women on fire
Powerful group learning experiences, group process & discussion, roleplay, movement, experiential learning
Deep witnessing, sharing & sisterhood in a place where it is OK to be vulnerable and take risks
Going deep with your sexual self through meditation, journaling, group process & ritual
Learn new sexual skills, sexual communication, flirtation & seduction, erotic massage, lap dancing & more
Breathtaking evening events by firelight, sexual archetype ritual, erotic carnival
What Fire Woman Participants are saying…
“I’m more alive. I believe that this is one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. Life-changing.”
“I learned about features of my sexuality I wasn’t even able to articulate. My world was blown. I feel lighter, happier, more liberated.”
“I have blossomed into a sexual being who feels strong in myself, confident with lovers and supported by this wonderful community of women.”
“Coming together, the energy of the event, the healing we have done, the fire itself, it’s just an amazing event. It was incredible. I loved it.”
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EXTRA HOT TICKET
Get all the bells and whistles: An event pre-call with Amy Jo, an exclusive lunch with Amy Jo & other teachers at the retreat, a special toy/book bundle and follow up after the event.
4 Reasons Why Fire Woman Retreat is
the single, most important event you’ll attend all year
1. You’ll feel an incredible sense of community and form friendships that will stay with you forever
So often we feel really alone with our sexual struggles and like “I’m the only one”. We need to hear each other’s stories so we know we are not alone. At Fire Woman Retreat the community will lift each other up. You will meet women who you will form deep friendships with and who will be in your life for a long long time if you choose. You need community, you need to be witnessed and you need to be loved. You need the company of other women and to be in a place where sexuality is honored as sacred. Because we grow most in our relationships, as you journey with other women who are also committed to their sexual journey and growth, you will form powerful bonds like no other. Profound healing happens when we are in sisterhood and it allows us to overcome the ways we are socialized to compete with each other and be suspicious of one another and to instead, learn to support and love each other, as well as ourselves. That alone is life-transforming.
2. You’ll have unique, unforgettable, life-changing experiences
There is nothing typical about this event! You are going to experience an elaborate Sexual Archetype Ritual where you will meet embodied archetypes that will talk with you and help you explore who you are and how you are impacted by cultural ideas of sexuality. You will get to play at the Erotic Carnival where you’ll be encouraged to explore things that are totally new in a safe environment. You’ll get to dress up and embody aspects of your sexuality that you’ve kept hidden or haven’t even known. These three days will take place in a stunning natural landscape that will help you connect with your own sexiness and desire and nourish your sexual energy. You will leave with so many tools for living a turned-on, lit-up, on-fire life, there’s no way that won’t be transformative!
3. You will leave the event witnessed, healed and transformed
You’ll get to experience the sexual life stories of women and deepen your own self-intimacy and intimacy with others through profound witnessing, healing and ritual. You will never feel alone again with the things that have kept you isolated—you will leave what you no longer need on the land and you’ll take with you a new sense of agency, freedom and wholeness that will transform your entire life. It’s time to heal and let go so you can make room for all you are ready to bring in!
4. You’ll have a completely new framework for sexuality that will help you create what you really desire
You will shed the judgments and fears that have kept you small and contained and define a whole new framework of sexuality that you will take home and integrate into your life so that you stop feeling guilty for your desires and who you are, and you start going for what you really want. You will tap into your inner Wild Woman and follow her instincts to the place that you were meant to be: a wholly fulfilled, confident, authentic woman who stands in her full power without apology. With that, there is nothing you can’t do.
When & Where
Opening ceremony begins at 1pm on Friday, September 27. If you are flying in, you’ll want to arrive in San Diego the day before. The retreat concludes at 5pm on Sunday, September 29. We may offer a pre-event Thursday night to get everything started!
The Fire Garden, 30418 N River Rd, Bonsall, CA 92003
(50 miles north San Diego International Airport or about 60 miles south of Orange County John Wayne Airport)
If you are bringing a car, just let us know so we can reserve parking for you.
We have reserved a block of rooms at the nearby Best Western Plus and La Quinta Inn by Wyndham San Diego Vista, with rooms from $89 – $169 /night.
If you have accommodations in north San Diego County or want to get an Airbnb or another hotel option, that is perfectly fine.
If you want to stay right on the land, there are limited camping spots available for $69 for Friday & Saturday only — however showers will not be available. You would want to bring a solar shower or know that you’ll get a little gritty.
Meals are included in your ticket. More details about menu coming soon!
Your Host: Amy Jo Goddard
Amy Jo Goddard has been teaching sexuality and sexual empowerment for over 20 years. What she’s seen in her two decades of teaching sexuality is that there comes a time in a woman’s life when she’s ready to stop settling and to embrace her sexual self in order to feel whole, free and vitally alive.
Amy Jo has a Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education from New York University and author of Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. You can check out her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” and her upcoming documentary, At Your Cervix.
Meet Your Teachers
Sunny Megatron is an adult sexuality educator, public speaker, blogger, sex and relationship writer, and pleasure advocate. She is also the host and executive producer of Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime.
TRIAMBIKA MA VIVE
Triambika is the founder of SoulTouch™, an integrative, life-affirming, gender inclusive path to sexual wholeness and has spent her life collecting wisdom in the realms of sexuality, intimacy & pleasure.
special guest speakers & performers to be announced soon!
Frequently Asked Questions
Let us answer your burning questions here.
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I am heterosexual / monogamous / polyamorous / lesbian / queer / genderqueer / a sex worker / a mom... Is this retreat for me?
This retreat is for woman-identified people and non-binary folks identified female at birth, regardless of sexual orientation, relationship style, parental status, or experience as a sex worker. A wide range of women attend Fire Woman, as well as non-binary folks. This is a place for exploration and part of our mission as a sex-positive space is that we make room for everyone and there is no pressure to be something you are not.
I'm a trans woman/non-binary/trans man. Is this retreat trans-inclusive?
If you are a trans woman or non-binary person who was identified female at birth you are welcome here. This is a trans-inclusive women’s space. If you identify as a man of any kind, both cis and trans, this is not the space for you. We thank you for respecting that.
What exactly do you DO at a sexual empowerment retreat?
It’s normal for people to be curious about what this kind of event looks like. It’s a combination of experiential teaching (which means you are doing and participating–not just listening and taking notes), group ritual, healing work, skills-based practice, dress up and play, dancing, live music, entertainment and introspection. As for the details, you’ll have to come in order to experience it! We ask that you trust the process. The curriculum is tried and true. If you resonate with what you have read on our website and you feel called to come, trust that. It’s the place for you. Amy Jo and all of the teachers have been doing this work for a long time and are very skilled. We can hold you where ever you are.
I'm not into camping. Do I have to camp?
Absolutely not! Camping is an option for those who want to stay on the land and enjoy it. If you don’t, we recommend you reserve a room at the Best Western Plus or La Quinta Inn by Wyndham San Diego Vista under our room block (ends September 17) or procure other accommodations.
Will there be food available? Will there be vegan/gluten free/dairy free options? What do I need to bring?
Yes, there will be healthy, appealing food available and we always make sure to offer options that are vegan/gluten free/dairy free. We will send you information about the menu before the event. Keep a lookout for that.
Is alcohol, cannabis, and other drug use appropriate?
No. This is a substance-free event for many reasons. One important reason for this is that many people are accustomed to using alcohol, marijuana or other substances to “loosen up” or let their inhibitions down sexually, and can rely on it. We want you to be able to fully experience this work sober and for all participants to have a lucid space. We ask that you respect this boundary should you decide to attend. If you cannot, this is not the right time for you to be here. Know that we will have herbal tinctures and teas available to help people with anxiety or other emotional states that may arise at “The Womb.”
I'm anxious/nervous. How do I know this is right for me?
You feel it. You feel the pull. You feel the resonance and the desire to be here. Anxiety and excitement feel the same in the body so it can be hard sometimes to know which it is. Often, it’s both. Some nervousness is absolutely natural! We do a good job of welcoming all participants and helping you to feel at home at the Fire Garden. You will find the space welcoming and nurturing, as well as challenging at times, because the topic of sexuality is by nature all of that. There will be plenty of support for you when you arrive. You won’t be alone. Please let us know if you need some extra support and we will do our very best to provide it.
Will I be photographed?
Yes, although we will never make your photos public if you don’t want to. This is totally up to you.
I've never been sexually violated. Is this retreat only for people who have experienced some kind of sexual abuse?
This retreat is not about sexual violation, although we will certainly address it. It is about holistic sexuality. People come for all sorts of reasons, from wanting to discover more about their desire, wanting to spark up their long-term relationship, wanting to love and embrace their bodies more, wanting more pleasure, wanting to heal sexual trauma or shame, wanting to overcome guilty feelings about sex, wanting to explore their attraction to other women, wanting to discover more about who they are as sexual people and so forth. Whatever your reason for attending Fire Woman, it is a valid one and there will be something rich for you here.
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