Unpacking Santa and Consent

Unpacking Santa and Consent

I was walking in Pasadena yesterday and happened upon a local holiday fair, with live music, food, lots of people and a good long line to sit on Santa’s lap. I walked by the entryway near the line and saw Mrs. Claus sitting in a chair, but no one was sitting on...
It’s A Complex Holiday

It’s A Complex Holiday

I am so grateful for the rain that has washed over the west coast. These fires have been devastating to many and sending love to the firefighters who are risking their lives to save lives and homes. I hope you are enjoying your long weekend, however, you are spending...
How Does Money Relate To Sexuality?

How Does Money Relate To Sexuality?

When we evoke the Fire Woman, we mean from the inside. It’s been a very sad week in California with the fires raging in our canyons and so many people have lost their homes. I am sending love and tenderness to so many feeling so much loss. This is the “new...
My Birthday, Your Wildness

My Birthday, Your Wildness

Last Nov. 9 was my birthday–a much better one than in 2016, the day after the election, possibly one of the most collectively depressing days in recent U.S. history. I’m a words-of-appreciation lover so I do love cards and letters if you feel moved to send...
Releasing Your Sexual Armor

Releasing Your Sexual Armor

Hope you had a fun, ghoulish Halloween, or celebration of Day of the Dead. It is a time of year when the veils between the worlds are said to be thin and calling on your ancestors can be particularly powerful. I couldn’t help myself and I dressed as a sexy...
Healing The Good Girl

Healing The Good Girl

I feel revived with hope. Before Fire Woman so much shit was smacking the walls, and the horror show of the Kavanaugh hearings was happening. Then I had the joy of spending three days with the perfect group of women who are ready to build something new inside...

Boys Will Be Boys

Yesterday felt familiar. It felt like the day in 1991 when I was a senior in college at UCSB and I sat watching the confirmation hearings for Clarence Thomas as Anita Hill was interviewed about the ways he had sexually harassed her. The discussions of porn. The pubic...