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What’s a Sex Coach?

What’s a Sex Coach?

When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then, what is it that you actually do?”

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This Is What 50 Looks Like!

This Is What 50 Looks Like!

I turned 50 this week! It's very surreal to think back to when you're a kid and you think that people in their 40s and 50s are so old! I don't actually feel old at all and people never think I'm my age and that's because of the way that I live. To be fair it's also...

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My Love Letter to Betty Dodson, fly in Pleasure! 1929-2020

My Love Letter to Betty Dodson, fly in Pleasure! 1929-2020

The Great Freedom Fighter, Betty Dodson, has left the planet. She taught more women how to have orgasms than anyone else ever--no small feat. I called her when I was a graduate student working on my thesis on masturbation in the mid-90s and asked for support, which...

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Why We Feel Bad About Feeling Good: The Top 5 Pleasure-Blockers

Why We Feel Bad About Feeling Good: The Top 5 Pleasure-Blockers

It’s hard for so many of us to feel true pleasure. We don’t allow ourselves to feel good. It doesn’t really make any sense. Why? Why would we block ourselves from the pleasure and good feelings that are ours to have? If we thought nothing about our life or our day...

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Am I Sexually Broken?

Am I Sexually Broken?

I have been hearing from women over the last several months about this idea that they are sexually broken. And a lot of times they are welling up with tears, and this is the first time they’ve ever voiced this to someone. It’s this idea that there is something about...

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Here’s the equation: BE + DO = HAVE

Here’s the equation: BE + DO = HAVE

I will not lay down. I will not be resigned that “it’s just gonna be like it always is. Nothing will change.”  Someone actually posted a comment to that effect this week on a post about the phone banking I have been doing.  How do you think the world...

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The Modern Sexual Priestess & the Sexually Uninitiated

The Modern Sexual Priestess & the Sexually Uninitiated

“Often sensations that we experience as terrible or painful are just pleasure without approval.” Carolyn Elliott Once upon a time in many cultures, there was such thing as a sexual priestess. She may not have been called that, but she was an older, sexually wise and...

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The New Violence of Forced Sterilization

The New Violence of Forced Sterilization

This week, a nurse at an ICE detention center blew the whistle on alleged mass forced/coerced sterilizations of women at the facility. If true, this is a horrific human rights violation.  Forced sterilization has a long ugly history in this country and other...

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What It Means To Be Non-Binary

What It Means To Be Non-Binary

Last year my best friend told me by phone that my niece AnaMaria had started to use “they/them” pronouns. She said they might call me at some point to tell me more about it. I texted on and off with my niece as we often would but no mention of it. I figured when the...

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What if you were that powerful?

What if you were that powerful?

I have been a coach for a transformational leadership program these last two weeks and the immediacy of how the lessons come is something I have experienced rarely in life.   The truth is that most people have NO IDEA how powerful they are. We literally source...

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Sexual Archetypes 101

Sexual Archetypes 101

There have been many questions about archetypes and some intrigue about them, so this week I thought I’d give you a little primer about my approach to these archetypes and why they matter.

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The Connection Between Sexuality & Spirituality

The Connection Between Sexuality & Spirituality

Often made complicated, the connection between spirituality and sexuality is so much more simple than we make it.

Spirituality is our connection to our spirit, to the non-physical aspects of self. We grow our spirituality to grow as an eternal being, as a life-force beyond this physical plane. Our spirituality gives us a purpose for our human life.

Sexuality is our relationship to our body, to pleasure, to our sensuality and to sex—all manifestations of living in a physical human body and experiencing our humanness to the greatest extent and the most intimate core.

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When Your Sexual Energy is Blocked

When Your Sexual Energy is Blocked

If you feel depleted and disconnected from your sexual energy or even your core vibrant life force (which I believe is the same thing) then your well might need some maintenance.

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The Plight of the Sexually Inexperienced Adult

The Plight of the Sexually Inexperienced Adult

There is a common sexual experience that few people talk about and yet is more pervasive than most people realize. Many adults are sexually inexperienced and this causes a slew of issues as they get further into adulthood, deeper into relationships and well past the...

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The Critical Ingredient the Personal Development World Misses

How I reconciled between the activist and personal development space and what I found Over a decade ago when I started my second and current business, as my 9-year relationship was ending and I was setting out to figure out what it would mean to truly stand on my own...

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The 9 Steps to Sexual Empowerment

People are often confused by what I mean when I say I work with people to become sexually empowered. Sexuality is so vast that when people want to work on their sexual selves they often don't even know where to begin. One of my client prospects recently said, "It's...

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The 5-Phase Sex and Money Process

Last week, I hosted my long-running masterclass, "10 Ways of the Sex-Money Connection". Because I've noticed people are hurting deeply around these two aspects right now. As I told the participants last week, "The way you do sex is probably the way you do money." One...

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