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The New Violence of Forced Sterilization
This week, a nurse at an ICE detention center blew the whistle on alleged mass forced/coerced sterilizations of women at the facility. If true, this is a horrific human rights violation. Forced sterilization has a long ugly history in this country and other...
What It Means To Be Non-Binary
Last year my best friend told me by phone that my niece AnaMaria had started to use “they/them” pronouns. She said they might call me at some point to tell me more about it. I texted on and off with my niece as we often would but no mention of it. I figured when the...
What if you were that powerful?
I have been a coach for a transformational leadership program these last two weeks and the immediacy of how the lessons come is something I have experienced rarely in life. The truth is that most people have NO IDEA how powerful they are. We literally source...
Sexual Archetypes 101
There have been many questions about archetypes and some intrigue about them, so this week I thought I’d give you a little primer about my approach to these archetypes and why they matter.
What’s a Sex Coach?
When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then, what is it that you actually do?”
The Connection Between Sexuality & Spirituality
Often made complicated, the connection between spirituality and sexuality is so much more simple than we make it.
Spirituality is our connection to our spirit, to the non-physical aspects of self. We grow our spirituality to grow as an eternal being, as a life-force beyond this physical plane. Our spirituality gives us a purpose for our human life.
Sexuality is our relationship to our body, to pleasure, to our sensuality and to sex—all manifestations of living in a physical human body and experiencing our humanness to the greatest extent and the most intimate core.
When Your Sexual Energy is Blocked
If you feel depleted and disconnected from your sexual energy or even your core vibrant life force (which I believe is the same thing) then your well might need some maintenance.
5 Ways Your Self-Esteem Impacts Your Sexuality
At it’s core, self-esteem is about holding ourselves in esteem—liking oneself. Do you wake up each day and love being you? Do you support you?
The Plight of the Sexually Inexperienced Adult
There is a common sexual experience that few people talk about and yet is more pervasive than most people realize. Many adults are sexually inexperienced and this causes a slew of issues as they get further into adulthood, deeper into relationships and well past the...
The Critical Ingredient the Personal Development World Misses
How I reconciled between the activist and personal development space and what I found Over a decade ago when I started my second and current business, as my 9-year relationship was ending and I was setting out to figure out what it would mean to truly stand on my own...
The 9 Steps to Sexual Empowerment
People are often confused by what I mean when I say I work with people to become sexually empowered. Sexuality is so vast that when people want to work on their sexual selves they often don't even know where to begin. One of my client prospects recently said, "It's...
The 5-Phase Sex and Money Process
Last week, I hosted my long-running masterclass, "10 Ways of the Sex-Money Connection". Because I've noticed people are hurting deeply around these two aspects right now. As I told the participants last week, "The way you do sex is probably the way you do money." One...
Without Sexism & Misogyny, Homophobia Would Not Exist
For those of us who have deep beliefs about the importance of equality, this week’s Supreme Court decision stating that people cannot be discriminated against in employment related to their sexual orientation or transgender status is a no brainer. It should have been...
Willful Ignorance & Creating Change
I just attended a small business town hall: Reimagining Small Business about how to create an equitable, antiracist, inclusive organization. It was wildly inspiring and aspirational. I have been engaged in many conversations about systemic racism and I’m seeing both a...
This is the Moment of Revolution
This has been a very important and heavy week here in the U.S. What is happening right now is critical to our future and becoming a true democracy that serves the life, liberty and pursuit of happiness of its people. I want to call us all to action. What...
Freedom in the Not-So United States
It's been a heavy week in the not-so-United States. In Minneapolis, George Floyd was brutally murdered by an on-duty police officer in broad daylight as he plead for his life, saying "I can't breathe." This is only the latest in so many killings of unarmed Black...
Your Human Taproot
I am blessed and blissed out from Fire Woman Retreat last weekend. I can believe what we accomplished in our four days of magic and I am still absolutely mesmerized and delighted by what I learned. I learned that so much more is possible. I learned that when the right...
Rosie the Riveter on Quarantine Moments
During WWII, as American men were needed for war with the Axis powers, who took up the slack at home? The same people who always do: women. Women not only managed their households, they also began to work in defense factories and production, took on roles formerly...