The Sexual Ecosystem
We started our Bringing Sexy Back class by talking about the Sexual Ecosystem.  Letâs think about what an ecosystem is: itâs an interconnected web of living things that support each other to create a living, thriving, alive, vibrant, sustainable...
Depression, Antidepressants and Sex
Depression can have a strained relationship with sex. The connection between depression and sex is not new. When a person is depressed and the brain chemicals that stimulate desire and arousal are not pumping and the brain is not firing the...
Sexual Empowerment Is Not One Thing, It Is Everything
I just returned from a week-long event with Joe Dispenza, diving into the quantum and how to create our futures from the fifth dimension. It was a completely life changing event and supported and evolved my thinking around sexuality and sexual energy.  I have always...
Sex is a Skill
I am always amazed at how many people do not realize that yes, SEX REQUIRES SKILL! It does not come naturally. Nothing does, except maybe breathing. When we come into this world, we donât know how to do anythingânot even eat. Thatâs why there are so many breast-feeding consultants. Babies need to learn how to take their mothersâ breast into their mouths and suckle, and new moms need to learn how to teach them! When we are born, we donât know how to drive a car, play Frisbee or soccer, cook a turkey, or dress ourselves with style. All of these things must be learned. And so must sex.
Skillful Sexual Communication in Couples
For so many years, I have heard stories from people--both men and women about their lost sexual lives, or about the sexual life they never had. I hear a lot of pain, sadness and a real loss in these stories. I hear from a lot of people who have been in long-term...
Sex During COVID: How Do I Get My Sexy Life Back?
While there is still so much we donât know about COVID, and still so much we really donât know about sex, there are plenty of things we know that can assist us in this anything but chocolate and peanut butter combination that has many of us flatlining...
The Sneaky Beast of Unworthiness
I have not felt a conscious lack of self-worth much in my life, as I have always had a healthy amount of self-confidence, know-how, go-get-âem energy, ability, and a long list of accomplishments.  Yet there is moreâmore that I want and more to extract from this...
The Women are Coming…
I donât know about you, but my nervous system just sighed deeply with relief. Four years of people in leadership positions promoting terror, hatefulness, anger, fighting, not caring for the American people and showing no responsibility for their...
Permission for Pleasure
Most of us need the permission to step out of the confinements of whatever limiting behaviors we have been taught, and when we do, we find parts of ourselves that were lying dormant, wanting expression.
Am I Sexually Broken?
One of the greatest fears I hear from people from all walks of life and backgrounds, is that they are sexually broken. Many times they are welling up with tears, and this is the first time theyâve ever voiced this to someone. Itâs painful to feel like you are sexually...
2020 Sexual Year in Review
We may have been quarantined, on lockdown, social distancing, missing our favorite restaurants and outings, longing for friend hangouts, challenged with online dating, touch deprived, sick of tight quarters with our live-ins or just off kilter with the arrangement of...
Divorce is a Developmental Stage of Adulthood
Many women show up in my sexual empowerment work on the heels of their divorce.  The feelings in post-divorce can range from feeling betrayed, like you missed out on something important, regret that you have boxed yourself up and...
Sexy Come Back! The #1 Reason Sexy Goes Away
Here’s the deal: the intricacies of daily life ARE somewhat at odds with the desire to feel sexually ‘on’ all the time. When your mundane life takes over, all of the details of the house, chores, errands, bills, laundry, and other daily tasks put a serious damper on your sex life. These things are NOT particularly sexy. Although a creative person can put some sexy in there, these things put a damper on sex and sexiness. They do not tend to inspire passion and creativity. Rather, they are about basic survival and productivity. Not all that sexy.
How “Clever Complaining” Blocks Our Abundance
The idea of being abundant and creating abundance is ubiquitous, and yet so many of us have a chronic problem with possibly the biggest abundance blocker there is: Complaining. Complaining sucks the life out of your relationships and...
What’s a Sex Coach?
When I tell someone that Iâm a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, âOh, so like, youâre a sex therapist?â Well not exactly. âSo then, what is it that you actually do?â
This Is What 50 Looks Like!
I turned 50 this week! It's very surreal to think back to when you're a kid and you think that people in their 40s and 50s are so old! I don't actually feel old at all and people never think I'm my age and that's because of the way that I live. To be fair it's also...
My Love Letter to Betty Dodson, fly in Pleasure! 1929-2020
The Great Freedom Fighter, Betty Dodson, has left the planet. She taught more women how to have orgasms than anyone else ever--no small feat. I called her when I was a graduate student working on my thesis on masturbation in the mid-90s and asked for support, which...
Why We Feel Bad About Feeling Good: The Top 5 Pleasure-Blockers
Itâs hard for so many of us to feel true pleasure. We donât allow ourselves to feel good. It doesnât really make any sense. Why? Why would we block ourselves from the pleasure and good feelings that are ours to have? If we thought nothing about our life or our day...
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